Why Do People Get Married or Want To Get Married?

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Although in today's world and generation society places lesser and lesser value to marriage, people still do it or want to do it.  Well, I did want it and wish for it when I was single and I still know quite a number of people planning and wanting to do it.  Why is this so?  There are many possible answers to this question.  Personally, here's what I have to say:

Marriage gives people a sense of emotional stability.  Though there are some who say it's just a paper yet I'd beg to disagree.  Yes it's a paper but it is a very important paper.  This paper means a lifetime commitment (though unfortunately not all couples stick to this commitment).  When you are in a couple but not yet married there are these possibilities of not taking some things or decisions too seriously because well, there's no great impact really, due to the lack of marriage.  If the decision leads to a break up well then that's it.  You may suffer from heartaches and sleepless nights but that's the most you could worry about.  Whereas, if you're married you'd think twice and be more careful with each decisions you make because breaking up doesn't just mean heartaches, sleepless nights, packing your things and moving out, it can mean a very long, traumatic, and strenuous divorce or annulment process.  I have never been this emotionally stable until I got married but this is entirely dependent on the person you choose to marry, so be careful!  You choose the wrong person and the last thing you'll have will be emotional stability.

Marriage gives people a structure in creating a family.  When you marry the person you choose to be with for the rest of your life then most likely you also plan of procreating, extending  your bloodline and contributing to our growing society.  This might not be true to each married couple but a large number of married couples would agree to this, I suppose.  Yes you may still have a family even without marriage but this still remains  one of the norms of the society.  It is still better to "start right".  It may sound a bit too righteous but isn't this how you'd wish your children to start their future families?  But of course this is just an option, everyone can start making their families the way they want.

Marriage gives people security.  When you finally said yes to each other, this is the yes for a lifetime together.  So you just got the assurance of having someone with you through it all if both of you will be true to your vows.  The road can be rough and some nights can be long but alas!  You will have someone with you! This is the kind of security I'm talking about.

Marriage makes you happy.  As long as you choose the right person then you'll be left with no choice but to agree with me.  One night, on our random conversation before falling asleep, I asked my husband what his idea is about why people get married and he answered "to be happy".  It didn't take him even a second to give me an answer and he elaborated saying he has never been really happy until he found and married me.  I couldn't agree more because I definitely share the same happiness.  Perhaps my husband's answer is a little too general but this is how I'd make it specific:  it is the kind of happiness you feel when you wake up beside each other everyday or the way you just can't get your mind off each other when you are apart; the kind of happiness you feel when you take care of each other even after a heated argument; the kind of happiness you feel when you forgive each other; the kind of happiness you feel when you cuddle after making love and the kind of happiness you feel when you look at the future together.

So, you are thinking of finally tying the knot?  If you think you have found THE ONE then by all means, go ahead!  There is nothing to be afraid of when you really love each other because as one french woman told us "avec l'amour tout va" meaning: with love everything is gonna be alright.