FʀɪᴇɴᴅsʜɪᴘS

In almost three decades I've had friends that had came and gone along with time.  It's not very easy to maintain a good friendship for years.  All these years I've got a few who stayed and there are some who are still reachable, I know where they are, they know where I am but there's not much of an effort to "meet-up" and catch the lost times.  

In the past, when cell phones and computers/social networking sites weren't present it was twice harder to keep a good relationship due to the communication restraint.  Everyone had to rely on land line phone calls or letters.  One of my sister's closest friend from high school lives in Mactan, the closest island to Cebu but I remember them writing each other in the past and sending post cards on special occasions.  In high school I studied three years in the city leaving some friends at the countryside whom I also exchanged with letters via my mother.  It was sweet.  There was a great effort.  Nowadays, almost everyone are just an sms away and yet not everybody are communicating effectively, as they say "if there's a will there's a way".  No matter how easy it is to communicate if there's no will to really meet each other to catch up the lost times then nothing will happen.  Like any relationships, somehow the friendship will also fade away with time.  In just a year a lot of things could happen, a lot of changes in each others' lives may occur and we may be able to constantly communicate about these changes but it's different if "friends" share these important changes, if "friends" share their ups and downs because that's what friendship is....to have someone with you through thick and thin.

Luckily, I have a few good friends all through these years.  These are the people who are like sisters to me.  We are three very different people who stayed with each other through it all.  We've shared a lot of battles together.  They've been with me as I was with them.  Words are not enough to describe how deep the friendship is.  There were some misunderstandings along the way of course but we surpassed it.  It is such a comfort knowing that at the end of the day you are sure that no matter what happens you always got someone  to count on aside from your family, that you always got someone who will laugh and cry with you.

We've all had our piece of cake with life, we've all had our share.  One almost got married but lost her beloved in an accident, the other shared a life with a man and they got a child and another one but the second one's life was eternally taken a few hours after birth and the last one almost got married but the supposed union was cancelled due to irreconcilable differences.  These experiences have taught the three of us a lot.  We've learned from our experiences and from the experiences of each other.  We've all had a rough ride but we always got the shoulder to lean on.  

Now, our lives have changed a lot...so far gone away from those tough times.  The memories, the nightmares are still there but we've all moved on.  Time have helped us a lot, maybe not all of us are healed but we're too far from our shattered selves.  We're all very happy with our loved ones.  One of us gets her strength from her lovely little boy, the other one have chosen to just be single and take her chances again (with her loving son in mind too since the child is staying with his father) and the last one recently married the man of her dreams.  

Life has a lot of surprises and not all are good surprises, some can be really puzzling and challenging and some are just awesomely great!  No matter what the future brings, if we got true friends by our sides burdens are lessen and joys are doubled☺ 

Mme. S. Cadic